I Don’t Have the Energy
Not having the vitality to fulfill your life purpose is part of a learned response. I’m tired, I’m exhausted, I’m worn out, and I’m too weary are just a few varieties of mind viruses that have infected you, consciously or not.
They’re generally an unintended excuse as opposed to a legitimate explanation for not doing the things you want to do. Accept the belief that you’re lacking the energy to make significant changes in your life and you latch on to a flimsy, albeit very effective, strategy for maintaining some pretty slovenly habits.
You can hang on to any old and comfortable behavior patterns by using the tiredness excuse. I’d love to get into shape, but I’m simply too exhausted to do what’s required. Or, I want to become qualified for that new position, but I’m just too fatigued to go to school at night.
The belief in your “non-energy” becomes self-fulfilling until you have to rest again, because coming up with excuses is a very tiring practice!
The low-energy excuse is simply what I’ve seen myself and many others employ when we don’t know how to overcome our own inertia, and I’ve found that when we really put it to the test, it doesn’t hold up. I’ve witnessed an absence of energy turn into an avalanche of high energy in just an instant.
When my children used to complain about being bored or too tired to move, for instance, all it took was a suggestion that we visit the water park, go shopping for a new bicycle, or do anything that they perceived to be fun, and they’d miraculously convert from weary to excited in a split second. And so it goes with all of us. We use the “I don’t have the energy” excuse as a reason to hold on to an inert and pathetic way of being.
The antidote to this is to find a way to inject energetic thoughts into your everyday thinking. One of John F. Kennedy’s biographers, Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr., quoted the former President as saying: “I suppose if you had to choose just one quality to have, that would be it: vitality.”
Vitality isn’t simply the amount of high-energy atoms you have swirling around inside of you; I consider it a way of thinking. You can learn to overcome the ennui of low-energy thinking and replace it with a way of processing the world that serves you in a positive, life-fulfilling way.
Low energy is by and large not a problem of body chemistry – it’s a function of a long history of habituated thinking that needs excuses to stay the same. You can learn to practice more satisfying and vibrant thinking that will elevate your enthusiasm, and ultimately produce an energetic lifestyle filled with purpose.
No matter what your chronological age is, you have the power to use your thoughts to elevate yourself to new levels of success, happiness, and health. Excuses Begone! thinking encourages you to spend your daily moments in aliveness, free of the old tiredness routine.
Refuse to cater to low-energy mental activity. Be determined to unquestionably place your thoughts not on what you can’t do, but on what you intend to create. Stay in this mind-set and you’ll never want to use the low-energy excuse again. Maintain your high-energy consciousness for what you want to accomplish, and watch it filter down to everyone you communicate with. High energy is infectious, and it originates with vital thinking that replaces those old mind viruses.
It’s My Personal Family History
You’ve always had a place in your family, and regardless of your opinion about it, there’s nothing you can do to change that.
If you were the youngest and always ordered around, that’s simply the condition of your early life. The fact is that your birth order (that is, being an only, oldest, middle, or youngest child) or any other familial sequencing – including being part of a blended family, having divorced or single parents, being adopted, having alcoholic parents, being of a low socioeconomic status, being racially mixed, or any of an endless combination of factors in your situation – is all in the past, and it’s all over!
Your relatives did what they did, given the circumstances of their lives. Acknowledge this, and then move into the present moments of life. Look at your family history as a blessing. Yes, a blessing! It’s precisely what you had to go through to arrive where you are today.
The manner in which you were treated or even mistreated provided you with an opportunity to be a stronger, more self-reliant person. Early experiences aren’t meant to be hidden behind when life isn’t working out the way you want it to – they aren’t reasons for staying stuck! But the family-history excuse has a huge following, so you have lots of company if you’re using it to explain to yourself and others why you aren’t who or what you want to be today.
The divorce that took place when you were a young child may have taught you many important life lessons, but more likely, you caught the cultural mind virus that goes something like this: Coming from a broken family is a traumatic experience that causes irreparable damage to children. A part of you believes and promotes this meme because it seems easier than exploring the pain that leads to a healthier and stronger mind-set.
This part of you probably thinks that it’s protecting you from that extremely painful childhood experience. Thus, you readily believe: Chances are almost zero that I’ll have a happy relationship after seeing how miserably my parents failed at marriage.
You can change all of this by reminding yourself that you absolutely have the power to elevate your attitude and beliefs.
Consciously take time to reimagine the family experiences you had in the early years of your life, regardless of how traumatic or troublesome they were at the time. You didn’t have the ability as a child to make peace with them, but you do now. Be in a state of appreciation and gratitude for the parts of you that survived and still want to grow. Encourage them by refusing to settle for the “easy out” of excuses.
For example, the years I spent in foster homes gave me life experiences that helped me to teach self-reliance to millions of people. Watching my stepfather drink himself to death, along with living with the effects that alcoholism has on a family, was (and still is) a great lesson that keeps me on the path of sobriety today. The presence of scarcity and food shortages as a child gave me an appreciation for all that has come to me, and I can now assure the poverty-conscious part of me: That was then, and this is now.
Excuses Begone! encourages you to make peace with everything that transpired in your life, including the painful experiences of abuse, abandonment, and disrespect. By hanging on to these lifelong, self-defeating thinking habits, you do yourself the following major disservices:
- You get weaker and sicker. Your biography can become your biology; that is, by clinging to old hurts or remembrances, you keep yourself in a place of attracting disease (or dis-ease) into your body. All of that anger, hatred, and anxiety is a vibrational match to the presence of serious illnesses . . . it’s the Law of Attraction at work.
If you think about what’s missing or what you disliked about your early life, the universe will offer experiences that match what you’re thinking. More of what was missing and what you disliked will continue to flow into your life in the form of disease.
- You remain stuck in the past. If you can’t elevate the thoughts about your past that are causing you to remain unhappy, unsuccessful, and unhealthy, you stay stuck where you are. Keeping unfortunate memories from the past alive with remnants of the originating anger, hate, and sadness becomes a habituated way of processing life. For example, if you hated how your father didn’t pay enough attention to you, and you use this to explain your adult self-consciousness, you’re stuck in that long-held belief pattern.
You have the unquestionable ability today to elevate your consciousness to explore ways to relieve self-consciousness and attract people you want to be with, rather than continuing to explain to yourself that you can’t attract those people because your father didn’t pay enough attention to you. Remember, your life is happening now, in the present moment.
Stay tuned for part 6 – I Am Too Busy
Available now from Hayhouse: Wayne Dyer – Excuses Begone
It will look like this: A Catalog of Some Common Excuses – Part V