Archive for the 'attitude' Category

Surrender: Is It About Giving In…or About Gaining Control?

Friday, February 27th, 2015

It was a question I asked people in my social surroundings, just to learn how they understood this term.

I was surprised at most of the answers:

“I do not want to give up; I am a fighter.”

“Surrender is a method of giving up.”

“I do not know how or why I need to surrender.”

My first impression was that some people don’t understand the real meaning of surrender. I don’t blame them. Just look at Merriam-Webster’sdefinition of surrender:to agree to stop fighting, hiding, resisting, etc., because you know that you will not win or succeed to someone else.”

I don’t know why this term has a mostly negative meaning.

Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Having Empathy?

Friday, February 20th, 2015

If someone is into self-development, they are likely to be familiar with ‘positive thinking’. This is something that is generally encouraged when it comes to living a better life.

Here, one will need to create thoughts that are ‘positive’ and do to everything they can to stop themselves from having thoughts that are ‘negative’. Through this, one will have the chance to feel better and to behave in ways that are more fulfilling.

Two Options

One can come to believe that they either allow their mind to be consumed by negative thoughts, or they take control and make sure their mind is full of positive thoughts. There is then no middle ground; it is either one or the other.

Introversion, Gut Feelings, and Trust

Friday, January 30th, 2015

Maybe – just maybe – your gut-level feeling that you shouldn’t be doing something is right. But if you’re an introvert, you’ve probably had a lifetime of being told to ignore your feelings, and urged to act just the opposite.

Want to stay home and read? “What’s the matter with you, anyway?” It’s implied that you’re neurotic or even antisocial. Want to leave a party before it ends? “You’re a party-pooper.” Find large groups overwhelming? “Just get out there and have fun (said with incredulity)!” (Even though the event gives you a headache or even nausea.) Enjoying being quiet and listening when in a group? “You’re shy, aren’t you?” a shaming label if ever there was one.

Depression: Can Repressed Anger Cause Depression?

Monday, January 26th, 2015

One of the most common mental and emotional challenges that someone can face in today’s world is depression. This is likely to be something that most people experience at one point or another.

There are then going to be others who don’t experience it from time to time, they experience it on a regular basis. It could be that this has come to be a way of life for them and it is then normal.

Normal

So what is normal for one person is not necessarily going to be normal for another. And this means that some people will be used to living without depression and others will be used to living with it.