Wouldn’t it be great if we could get immediate feedback about when the mind shuts itself off and we go unconscious to ourselves and our communications with others? Wouldn’t that save a lot of grief and potential problems if we could say to ourselves, “Hey wait a minute, I’m beginning to drop off now. I’ll wake up when there’s a version of reality playing that I can relate to.”? Wouldn’t it be useful to be have a built-in unconsciousness meter somewhere in our brains that would alert us to when we go unconscious and when others do the same?

An attitude has swept across practically every person in every country on the globe over the course of the past few decades. This is the attitude of victimhood. Why has it become so popular for people to feel like they are victims and what purpose can this serve?

The Lack of Responsibility
Victims feel they can shirk responsibilities because those fall on the shoulders of the victimizers. Victims feel like they have no control over their own lives. Have a drug problem? It’s your parents’ faults. Uneducated? It’s not your fault. You had to take care of your kid. Single parent? That’s the fault of that no good boyfriend that hit the road as soon as you gave birth.

Being simply present and holding a respectful attitude that includes being willing to help but not being pushy about it, along with a compassionate understanding of the person’s difficulties go a long way towards gaining a friend in need rather than an enemy with an attitude.

Every person is anchored by their beliefs for good or bad. Everyone experiences difficulty at some point, some more severe or consistent than others. It is the anchoring beliefs in a person’s life that determine how that person will react when faced with challenges.

Self-help books and programs often attempt to break up different areas of life into compartments or areas of responsibility. You are responsible to your family, for example, but perhaps not responsible in quite the same way to yourself. Your responsibility toward your coworkers, boss, and clients or customers may not include quite the same points of integrity as your responsibility as a citizen of a country or a member of a society. Self, family, work, society, and culture all require different kinds of responsibility on your part. This is where the concept of domain comes into.

How compartments and domains are similar.