It’s a fact that you can learn from a mistake after you admit you have made it, and that you cannot blame anyone else for your actions because you’ll never learn anything from what you’ve done. You have to own up to your mistake and become responsible. Once you’re able to admit that, you can move the focus of the blame away from others.

Making Mistakes in Modern Society
People are taught in school, in their families, or at the workplace that a mistake is something you should feel guilty about even though setbacks are inevitable and part of everyday life. Unfortunately, these same setbacks also seem to explain why people give up in life: they are not prepared to make a mistake and fail. What we need to recognize as a culture is that goals are challenging and setbacks will become more frequent – you must become dependent on your ability to learn from your mistakes and overcome them.

Are your beliefs shaped by your experience or do you experience what you believe?
Your answer may depend on whether you live your life defensively or proactively. Defensive attitudes around your beliefs mean that your experience shapes your beliefs. In your life, you’ve experienced X,Y, or Z and you’ve come to believe certain things as a result of those experiences. The end result is one in which we have to constantly defend our positions regarding X,Y, or Z and our beliefs therefore reflect a fundamental limitation in our thinking.

A characteristic of the modern age is that even though we know we are connected to the big wide world at large, we usually live our lives in our own private little mental ecology with little thought to that big world out there. Our little internal world seems big enough — or is it that the outer world is just spooky enough that we cannot understand the concept of it all?

When it comes right down to it, it is a bit scary and overwhelming. At least inside our own heads, we can attend to things and not give it a second thought regarding the hows, the whys, the whens, or the wheres. It is all inside our head! Yes, the entire world contained within the space between one ear and the other.

Marilee Adams’ second edition of her bestselling work explores further the concept of questions and knowing the right questions to ask at the right times. However, Some of the questions we all ask prove to be more detrimental than helpful.

Consider these five questions that you should avoid asking yourself at all times, even though they may still seem natural and familiar. All of these questions have built-in assumptions that can prevent the question asker from being successful or satisfied.

As you go through your day, listen to the questions you’re asking yourself and then wonder whether the inherent assumptions serve you. Sometimes you’ll find that you can be more successful and satisfied by changing your questions.