Archive for the 'Forgiveness' Category

Surviving the Family Holiday

Thursday, December 19th, 2013

What makes family relationships so complicated?

Family relationships are complicated because of the expectation that “we are all the same” because we’re part of the same family. The expectations we have of each other (because we’re related) can make it difficult to “be ourselves,” especially if we have different values and goals than do other family members. Because of pre-established roles of who we are supposed to be and how we are supposed to act (based on gender, birth order, family rules, family rituals, zodiac sign), family systems do not always give us the space to be who we are.

Self Doubt: Is Self Doubt A Good Thing?

Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

When it comes to someone having an inner voice that is not supportive or nurturing for instance, there is going to be the need for some kind of change to take place. And if one feels practically paralyzed by this voice, then it is only natural that some kind of solution is going to be sought.

This might be something that happens fairly quickly, or it could take a while. And changing ones inner voice from one that is critical and harsh to the opposite of this usually takes a while.

The Blame Game – Stop It

Friday, November 29th, 2013

The Blame Game – Stop It

To define Blame, let’s first look to Webster who says it is to accuse others of being at fault; to say or think that a person, place or thing, is responsible for something happening; to put the responsibility for the fault somewhere else.

Does this sound familiar? It surely sounds like what most of use do.

This modus operandi starts early in life, with blaming family members because you don’t get your way and if you’re not careful the process continues into adulthood. It has to stop if we want to live life fully and free of resentments.

14 Ways To Procrastinate Productively

Wednesday, September 18th, 2013

For too long I’ve sat idly by while the good name of procrastination is dragged through the muck. For the sake of getting things done we’re advised to banish, kill, and avoid procrastination without any acknowledgment of the good it’s done.

We owe procrastination. Big time. It’s responsible for our best ideas and busiest hours. Used effectively, procrastination is a powerful motivator and source of inspiration.

Structured Procrastination

Productive procrastination falls into two categories, structured and unstructured. With structured procrastination (via pmarca, via via 43F) you use the desire to avoid an important task as motivation to crank out dozens others. Anything to postpone what you really need to do, right?