If one was to watch athletics on TV or at a stadium, they would soon see that not everyone is on the same level. Within each race, there will be some athletes who are at the front and there will be others who nowhere near the front.

In this instance, it is clear that some of the athletes are better than others. One is not being ‘politically incorrect’ by saying this; they are making a simple observation. Very few athletes break records or win medals and even if they do win a medal at one event, it doesn’t mean they will go on to win anymore.

Human Beings

The nearest cousin to frustration is confusion. So don’t you worry we are going deal with the two at the same time together. What is frustration of being frustrated? you have had the tall rich and handsome guy now what, you have had this beautiful lady that has it all nice and tied (stole this from Americans, so you know what I am talking about) now what, you have had the career that is making you travelling the world and meeting new people now what, you have the best car now what, you have got a good house now what…

It was a question I asked people in my social surroundings, just to learn how they understood this term.

I was surprised at most of the answers:

“I do not want to give up; I am a fighter.”

“Surrender is a method of giving up.”

“I do not know how or why I need to surrender.”

My first impression was that some people don’t understand the real meaning of surrender. I don’t blame them. Just look at Merriam-Webster’sdefinition of surrender: “to agree to stop fighting, hiding, resisting, etc., because you know that you will not win or succeed to someone else.”

I don’t know why this term has a mostly negative meaning.

Maybe – just maybe – your gut-level feeling that you shouldn’t be doing something is right. But if you’re an introvert, you’ve probably had a lifetime of being told to ignore your feelings, and urged to act just the opposite.

Want to stay home and read? “What’s the matter with you, anyway?” It’s implied that you’re neurotic or even antisocial. Want to leave a party before it ends? “You’re a party-pooper.” Find large groups overwhelming? “Just get out there and have fun (said with incredulity)!” (Even though the event gives you a headache or even nausea.) Enjoying being quiet and listening when in a group? “You’re shy, aren’t you?” a shaming label if ever there was one.