The nearest cousin to frustration is confusion. So don’t you worry we are going deal with the two at the same time together. What is frustration of being frustrated? you have had the tall rich and handsome guy now what, you have had this beautiful lady that has it all nice and tied (stole this from Americans, so you know what I am talking about) now what, you have had the career that is making you travelling the world and meeting new people now what, you have the best car now what, you have got a good house now what…
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When someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect.
Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will allow one to enjoy what they were doing before, but in moderation. However, this can all depend on what one was addicted to in the first place; as it may be something that they need to cut out altogether.
When one is able to cut down, they won’t need to go from one extreme to the other and this will allow them to accept both sides. There will be moments when they can have what they want and moments when they can’t.
It was a question I asked people in my social surroundings, just to learn how they understood this term.
I was surprised at most of the answers:
“I do not want to give up; I am a fighter.”
“Surrender is a method of giving up.”
“I do not know how or why I need to surrender.”
My first impression was that some people don’t understand the real meaning of surrender. I don’t blame them. Just look at Merriam-Webster’sdefinition of surrender: “to agree to stop fighting, hiding, resisting, etc., because you know that you will not win or succeed to someone else.”
I don’t know why this term has a mostly negative meaning.
If someone is into self-development, they are likely to be familiar with ‘positive thinking’. This is something that is generally encouraged when it comes to living a better life.
One can come to believe that they either allow their mind to be consumed by negative thoughts, or they take control and make sure their mind is full of positive thoughts. There is then no middle ground; it is either one or the other.