Back in the dark ages, when I was in school, we were given IQ tests, if you scored high on them you were declared a genius, if you scored low you were sent off to a technical school where, hopefully, you would be taught something that would allow you to make money. As I have grown older, I have to realize that we become successful in life because of the self image that we choose. So, let’s do a Dr. Maltz here and look at a tale of two self images.
Before I start to tell you these stories, I want to let you know that you can hear them for yourselves on the “Zero Resistance Living” CD program that is distributed by the Psycho Cybernetics foundation. The development of your “self-image” is at the core of psycho cybernetics.
A young woman finally hears the words that she has been waiting for and marries the man of her dreams. Both of them are employed in high paying jobs and soon purchase their dream home. In order to bolster their selfimage they are constantly purchasing new cars and indulging in all of the fine things that life has to offer, on credit.
Then, one morning she wakes up and there is a “Dear John” letter waiting for her on the kitchen counter. The dream husband has left her and taken all of the money that they had in the bank. To add insult to injury, a week later she is terminated from her position and given a measly 30 days pay as compensation. She has no money in the bank, way more credit than she can afford to liquidate, and now she has no job. Her self image has been decimated.
She files bankruptcy and walks away with only a few minor possessions. She is interviewed a couple of months later while living in a van in a state park. The news person is anxious to know how she could have fallen so far. She tells them that it is only temporary and that she is working to get back on her feet.
Then, her self image kicks into failure mode. When the news crew returns 6 months later it is to find that she has committed suicide.
Now, let’s look at some who used a positive self image to create a life that is successful.
Dr. Maltz talks about a man that showed up to one of his speaking engagements. He noticed that the man was having difficulty with things like removing his suit coat. After the jacket had been removed, he saw why. The man had no hands.
After giving his speech, Dr. Maltz spoke with the man. The gentleman told him that he had lost both of his hands in an accident several years prior. He, also, told Dr. Maltz that for a while after the accident he thought about taking his own life. Then, his self image kicked into success mode and he turned himself into the best sales person that he could be and went out to conquer the world.
Both of these individuals faced horrific experiences in their lives, however, one chose to leave the past behind and create a new, positive present. The other allowed her self image to be one of defeat and chose to end her life.
We are all affected by past experiences. If we want to have a successful, positive self image, we have to concentrate our thoughts on the times, now matter how small, in which we achieved success.
Every morning, when we look in the mirror, we make a decision about what self image we are going to bring into our day. Choose a failure image and you fail, choose a successful self image and you achieve the goals that you have set for yourself that will move you forward.
Here’s to your successful self-image!
It will look like this: Choosing Your Self Image