With the best of intentions, we all wish to lead the life we want to live, with plenty of freedom to enjoy our desires and to keep us (or put us) at the top of our game. Yet, just like the practical math skills needed to balance our checking accounts, setting intentions is not exactly high on the list of things we must master in life to be productive and successful. We usually are not given the opportunity to learn how to balance our bank accounts in school, and we certainly are not often trained on how to work with our intentions.
One thing that everyone can agree on is that setting intentions is easy . . . but somehow . . . despite our best efforts . . . the results are not always what we expect. Darn! Maybe it’s harder than we thought! Like everything else, you just have to know what you’re doing.
Man loves dog. Wife moves out.
“When I think of my dog, I can’t stop crying out of gratitude and joy,” he confesses, adding, “ but my wife is different: I’m just numb.” When questioned further the, the unrepentant dog lover chokes back tears of joy and sobs, “I never intended this to happen. I’m so happy she didn’t take the dog with her . . .”
It’s one thing to intend to have a happy, successful relationship with your spouse; it’s another thing to “never intend” for an unsuccessful relationship to be the reality. The former is a case of leading your life. The latter is a case of your life leading you.
In the news flash above, the man made a choice to love his dog. Whether he knew it or not, he was firmly in command of his decision and his actions. He was leading his life. On the other hand, he allowed his life to lead him in the sense that he never intended to neglect or to lose his wife.
Never intending a negative is not the same as intending a positive. And this brings us to a critical point in the discussion about how to form intentions in seven easy steps.
Step One: Always deal with positives.
Think, speak, act or otherwise express yourself on in the positive. The mind cannot process a negative. If you don’t believe me, try not thinking about a Great Pyrenees eating an ice cream cone in blizzard. If you are working with your intentions, then intend! Do not ever not intend. Get it?
Step Two: Always use present tense.
You are the master of creating the reality you desire, but you never will be if you think of it in past or future terms. “I love my dog” carries more creative power than “I used to love my wife.”
Step Three: Don’t mistake your emotions for your feelings.
This one is tricky. Our day-to-day language does not make fine distinctions between the emotions and our feelings. Emotions can be positive or negative and are fairly lop-sided. Feelings are balanced emotions along with balanced thoughts all wrapped up in one reality- creating power package. Balance is the key here. The raw energy an emotional wallop packs along with a creative and self-actualized idea about something is the actual mechanism through which your consciousness creates your reality. That mechanism is your feelings.
A sign that your emotions and your thoughts are expressing themselves as feelings in a balanced way is the heightened sensitivity you might have when connecting with your environment or your loved ones in general. There is no loss of perception or falling off in your ability to think. You are not emoting at this point, you are feeling—and it feels good!
Step Four: Take the lead.
You’re in charge. You decide. You take action. You create. When you frame your intention in a positive way, it’s up to you to decide not only how that feels but also what you’ll need to do to support that decision. Then, and this is critical for a nation of couch potatoes such as ourselves, you need to take action. If that means going to the store to buy a diamond – studded collar, then by all means do it.
Step Five: Stay with it.
Once you’ve given your beloved the diamond-studded collar, take a moment to reflect on the whole process. Try to be as centered in your feelings as possible. Go back to your original intention. In what other ways can you support that intention? Perhaps a platinum water dish or a mink-lined sleep sack. Your creation will evolve and reach ever amazing new heights if you stick with it.
Step Six: Know when to change.
Let’s face it. Everything gets stale sooner or later. Don’t get in the doghouse with your creations. Keep it fresh. You have limitless ability to create unique things and processes in your reality. Think of it as interval training for your reality creation muscle. The more you work that muscle, the more cool and amazing things you’ll be able to do. Bury the bones of your old creations and find something new to gnaw on when the time is right. Go get ‘em, Ace!
Step Seven: Take a nap once in awhile.
Happiness is being able to relax every now and again. Breathe deeply, hunker down and simply turn everything off for a time. Few things in life feel as good as a good snooze after a hard day of creating. Soon enough, you’ll be up and running after new creations again. Savor the peace when you can so you can be ready for the next amazing round of intentions.
About the author:
Tim Thompson is a professional freelance writer/editor whose work with Dream Manifesto helps illuminate life for online and offline audiences around the world. He currently makes his home in southern California and is working on several online projects.
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