I mentioned taking responsibility, but did I mention being 100% responsible? Let me explain. Being 100% responsible is not about assigning blame to yourself. It is about putting the power back where it belongs – with you. The power is and always has been with you; you just temporarily misplaced it.
Being 100% responsible means that no matter what is happening and where you are in life, in the situations, circumstance and events – without exception – you are the one who has the power to transform them. Nobody else gets to say how you feel.
Your emotions are your business and yours alone. You choose every time how you interpret any situation and how you feel about it. You are the one, therefore, vibrationally emitting the signals. You will get more along the lines of what you predominantly think and feel about. That is why it is so important to know how you feel about any situation.
Your unique emotional guidance system will let you know without fail every time where you weigh in on the scale of positive or negative emotion. And remember the Law of Attraction which states that like attracts like – the essence of that which is like itself is drawn – is a universal principle. It is operating whether you know about it, agree with it or not.
This is an attraction-based universe. That means that the expansion of the Universe is based on what is added to thought, rather than deleted from. Therefore, there is no exclusion. You can’t place your attention on the exclusion of something and have it disappear. The attention on it will cause it to expand in your experience.
Putting negative attention on or pushing against anything will cause more of it in your experience. This is an important point to grasp. You can never say “No” to something, trying to get it out of your experience, without attracting more of it. When you say “no”, you are focusing your attention on “Not this”. Put your attention on what is NOT wanted and you will get more of what is NOT wanted. “Get that out of my life,” “Get rid of debt”, “fight fat”, etc.” all puts the emphasis on what is NOT wanted.
As Jesus said: “Resist ye not evil,” and for a good reason. You will attract exactly what it is you are resisting, whether it is weight gain, negative emotion, traffic jams, whatever. So for Star Trekkies, it takes on a new meaning when the Borg say: “Resistance is futile.” Indeed.
Don’t bother going into the head trip of asking the question “why”. This is another ego subterfuge to keep you in your head using reason rather than using your emotional guidance system, which is always right on track informing you on whether you are attracting and allowing or keeping “what’s missing (it’s not here)” in place.
Victim or Victor?
Your heart is always your higher guidance, and you will get the answers you seek. You become the one who realizes that, for reasons perhaps unknown at this time, you created a circumstance which allows you to access more power, understanding, transformation, and healing.
There are no victims in the universe. The choice point comes for you to move through any unwanted situation, creating a whole new future for yourself and those around you. Family, friends, and associates will see with their own eyes how you, with grace and ease, moved into a new plane and wonder what you are up to. If they desire it, they will soon see that they can do the same. You become a model just by example of how to live life with deliberate intent.
From now on, when something unpleasant happens like an argument with a co-worker, a fender-bender, or losing your wallet, look at it as information telling you that you’re out of balance with your higher intentions. You’ll soon leave the negative self-chatter behind to find your life becoming an intentional creation. Soon you will be opening the door for your lover to walk through.
All of your relationships become a reflection of you. Take extra notice of every time a button gets pushed. That old knee-jerk response is running you. Be responsible that you have the ultimate choice on how you want to feel about what just happened. Break through wanting to give others that power over you and you will break free.
It is not always easy to look at yourself, but I do look and I do take 100% responsibility. I am a free woman. Nobody can make me feel anyway unless I choose it.
Victor Frankl, the renowned Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor who watched his entire family and friends perish said, “Everything can be taken away from man but one thing – to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
Can you imagine that as a survivor of a concentration camp, this is what he concluded? What a powerful perspective to operate from. Are you willing to take back your power and never give it away again?
I know that I am the only one who can rain on my own parade. I must admit that sometimes I do just that; but I am getting better and better at catching myself and speedily shifting to better feeling thoughts. I have adopted the credo “nothing is more important than that I feel good.” Abraham-Hicks taught me that and I use it often. That is when I know I am locked on to my guidance system and Source energy.
So are you waiting for your dream lover to come to you? Instead of waiting, get busy creating. In short, to create the relationship of your dreams, you need a new model. The old ones have not served you and there is something stuck in your vibration that keeps recreating the same kind of relationship – over and over again. And remember, the common denominator is you!
It will look like this: How to Become a Powerhouse Creator