The most important promises we make are the promises we make to ourselves. How many of us have said to ourselves, “I’m going to the gym everyday for the next month,” “I’m going to lose 20 lbs. in 2 weeks”, “this is my last drink”, or “I’ll never smoke again”. Many of us are great at making mental lists of promises to ourselves, but at the end of the day see only one or two items checked off. What does that feel like to make that promise and then not keep it… it feels really terrible right? Our self-esteem is on a path of being diminished.
Many of us minimize how important those promises are because we think since we made the promise privately and are not accountable to anyone else then no one will ever know. In fact, we should be honoring ourselves as the most important person in the world to make a promise to and keep it! Why is it that we sometimes give more love and respect to other people in our lives rather than to ourselves?
We must be sure that we are striking balance in our lives; if you live with the idea that Balance is the Key to life and strive to achieve that, and then you are much more likely to realize that balance. Too much of anything isn’t good, having a big bowl of ice cream… good, five big bowls… not good.
That sure sounds easier said than done… huh? But again striving to be better everyday is what it’s all about, we’re all a work in progress and it is important to be kind to ourselves and only compare ourselves to ourselves. There is no one that has the same gifts that we have and when we recognize that it is amazing how much we will thrive.
Confidence, self-assurance, and happiness can only come from within so let’s focus our energy on being the best we can be and all the other relationships in our lives will improve.
Make those realistic promises and keep them because at the end of the day we have to be true and authentic to what we believe. Each of us deserves all the best that life has to offer and when we treat ourselves as a cherished and valued friend it is amazing how wonderful that can feel. And when we feel good about who we are… love, goodness and abundance comes our way in every form.
It will look like this: Promises – The Key to How We Feel About Ourselves