This article is an extract of chapter #9 in Karl Moore’s best-selling book, “The 18 Rules of Happiness”.
“You don’t know when you’ve hit a peak until you’re coming down. And you don’t know when you’ve hit a trough until you’re climbing out. It’s all good” – David Brent
The world is crammed full of “opposites.”
In order to have hot, you must have cold. In order to have light, you must also have dark. In order to have up, you must have down.
Right? They’re opposites. One can’t really exist without the other.
In fact, they’re actually “pairs.” Without each other, neither can exist. It just doesn’t make sense. You can’t have up without down.
We all understand that now.
But how many times do we try to cram our lives with happiness – and remove every last drop of sadness?
The truth is that in order for you to experience true happiness in your life, you must experience sadness. It’s required. Without sadness, we really can’t even understand what happiness is.
Yet how many of us struggle and fight against sadness when it comes into our lives?
We think that we should ONLY be experiencing the good, the positive, the happy. We MUST be thinking positively at all times. And if we don’t, we blame ourselves for failing.
Is this a realistic way to live your life? Are YOU addicted to only experiencing the “good” in life?
Are you TRULY embracing the “duality” of your life experiences?
Remember, you cannot throw only the heads side of a coin. The tails side always goes with it. In order to have happiness, you must also experience sadness. If you wish, consider it a “credit” toward future happiness.
Dolly Parton describes it much more eloquently: “If you want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with the rain.”
In other words, and quite simply: It’s all good.
Stop judging individual experiences, and how “good” or “bad” they are. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures. And when seemingly negative things happen, remember that it’s just the duality of life. It’s just the other side of the coin. It’s required. It’s part of the equation.
So, appreciate the other side of the coin – and you will be happy.
It will look like this: Appreciate Both Sides of the Coin