This article is an extract of chapter #10 in Karl Moore’s best-selling book, “The 18 Rules of Happiness”.
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
It turns out that Michael Caine was right all along.
Playing Scrooge in the Muppet’s Christmas Carol, he sang: “If you want to know the measure of a man, you simply count his friends!”
Countless studies on the science of happiness have turned up one single characteristic of the happiest and most successful people in society.
They have a large social network!
Lots of friends. Lots of colleagues. Lots of people they call just to banter with for 10 minutes.
How many friends are stored in your cell phone?
One shortcut to becoming happier – quickly – is to simply make more friends.
Be proactive about it. Don’t just wait for interesting people to stumble into your life. Join a local dance group. Discover a book club. Try randomly chatting with strangers in your nearest cafe.
Get yourself listed on social networking sites, such as Facebook, MySpace, Bebo, Hi5 – and join the online groups that share your interests. Subscribe to the many friendship-only sites springing up in big cities. Get out there!
Making friends isn’t that difficult. You just need to make the effort.
Here are some tips.
Firstly, make yourself an attractive friend. Don’t begrudge buying a coffee occasionally. Don’t have “attitude.” Don’t spend your time moaning. Nobody likes negativity. Keep a smile on your face – while being yourself.
Secondly, make an effort, even when they don’t. Sometimes people are reserved in the early stages of friendship, and need that extra push before a real connection can be established. Be the one to make that move. If it doesn’t work out, it’s their loss. Move on.
Throughout it all, however, make sure you play the numbers game.
Don’t stop when you have one or two extra friends. Keep going and going. Expand your social circle as far as you can.
Be the person that walks through town and bumps into a dozen friends.
Remember, the happiest people are those that have the largest social circles.
So, be more social – and you will be happy.
It will look like this: Be More Social