The Antidote To The Fuzzy Future Syndrome

Monday, May 10th, 2010

Are you ready to get exactly what you want?  Like so many I’ve asked before you, I hear you emphatically responding, “Yes!” Great!  It’s yours!  But…what is it, exactly?  And if you actually got it, what price would you have to pay?

You don’t have to pay any price.  Your dreams are ready and waiting for you to bring them to life.  But shifting gears to focus on the creation of our dreams sometimes feels like a lot of work, and much of it not destined to produce results.  It often seems that if we would only work harder on the current realities before us, we would get what we want through sheer focus of will.

Comparison – The Root of All Unhappiness

Saturday, August 22nd, 2009

The root of much unhappiness is comparison. Comparison gets in the way of healthy self-appreciation — and thus happiness – more than anything else. Because of comparison, hardly anybody is ever happy with what they get and nothing’s ever good enough for practically everybody. That’s because we measure our success in anything by comparing it to what others have or to what we have had before.

In other words, whether you are happy with what you get depends on how it measures up to some norm. That norm depends on two things: what other people get (social comparison), and what you yourself are used to getting (habituation). It is hard for success in any form (money, status, prestige, and so on) to improve your happiness because as actual success rises, the norm by which success is judged rises in step.

Proceed Despite Detractors

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

Your assignment is to live a charmed life in the midst of people who don’t believe you can do it , and to accomplish this despite them, not to spite them.

Chances are there is at least one significant person in your life who thinks that all this charmed-life stuff is ridiculous. They may have told you to grow up, be realistic, and get with the program. Of course, it’s their program, some variation on the theme of “Very few people do anything exceptional, and you won’t be one of them.”

They might begrudge the time you spend reading books like this one and putting the suggestions you find there into practice. They may cite every time you’ve been sad or angry or things didn’t work out the way you wanted as evidence that you’re deluding yourself.

A Catalog of Some Common Excuses – Part V

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009

I Don’t Have the Energy
Not having the vitality to fulfill your life purpose is part of a learned response. I’m tired, I’m exhausted, I’m worn out, and I’m too weary are just a few varieties of mind viruses that have infected you, consciously or not.

They’re generally an unintended excuse as opposed to a legitimate explanation for not doing the things you want to do. Accept the belief that you’re lacking the energy to make significant changes in your life and you latch on to a flimsy, albeit very effective, strategy for maintaining some pretty slovenly habits.