An Interview with Lauren Mackler, author of the book: Solemate – Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life.

1. There are a multitude of self-help books that address many of the same topics as Solemate. These include books for singles, and books about how to overcome fear, live a more fulfilling life, and build self-esteem. What makes Solemate different from the rest?

Many self-help books targeted to singles are “how to” books for snaring the perfect mate. They reinforce the myth that happiness is found by searching outside yourself – instead of within yourself.

A recent survey shows that stress due to money and the economy is taking a significant emotional and physical toll on Americans. If unmanaged, the intensified stress can poison a once healthy relationship. HeartMath® has explored human emotions extensively for the past 17 years, using heart rate variability, or heart rhythm patterns, to measure inner emotional states and stress levels.

Stemming from this research are innovative techniques and technologies that utilize the heart’s powerful rhythms to intercept and manage stressful emotions. Couples around the world are using this scientifically validated heart-focused approach to deal more effectively with today’s heightened stress, fear and anxiety and to revitalize their heart connection.

A bumper sticker on a car in front of me reads: In a world of deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.

Truth heals. But how? And why? And what good does it do anyway? Plenty.

Telling the truth is about freedom. It is about joy and peace and health and living a life that is meaningful, powerful, connected, and loving. Ultimately, telling the truth is about feeling good in your own skin, unencumbered, free, and having the life that you want to live.

So why do lies so often seem nicer, tidier, easier? The truth is often uncomfortable – because so much shame and guilt are attached to it, because it has been suppressed and left unspoken for years.

Backed with feeling, affirmations are very powerful statements. Start saying your affirmations with feeling today! Affirmations are a great way to start moving your vibration from a lower state to a higher state fast!

A low vibration is exemplified by:

• Low energy
• Self-defeating attitudes
• Any beliefs that feel less than good
• Feelings of limitation
• Lack of any sort – feeling “less than”
• “Not good enough” feelings about your body, your health, your money, your relationships or absence thereof

These thoughts and feelings are what keep us stuck in recreating more of what we already have . . . not enough. It’s always best to start where you already are.